I am not just talking exclusively about jealousy in your relationship. What about jealousy over a friend’s promotion or a nephew’s book deal? I think jealousy of all kinds is perfectly normal. The issue is what you do with your jealousy. Maybe seeing a cousin’s engagement photo makes you realize that you really do want to settle down with your partner. Or maybe hearing that so-and-so got into graduate school convinces you to finally make that step yourself! Harness that jealousy and put it towards something useful! In relationships, I try to remember that you can’t be everything to another person. I know that fact is hard to hear, but it is true. If your guy or gal enjoys complaining to their coworker/classmate about work/school, let them. Thinking about all the needs that you do fulfill can put things in perspective. Still having issues? Write them down. You may find out that putting it into words makes all your worries seem silly. Funny how that happens. I did that with my OCD rituals and when I actually had them all on paper, it seemed less concerning and more irrational.
Are you a jealous person? How do you deal?