Confession: I am terrible at curling my hair. I have tried clipless wands, plain old curling irons, and yet nothing seems to give me the look that I want. Having shorter hair too makes finding that perfect tool to use almost a pipe dream. Using too small of a curling iron gives me curls that look a little too matronly and sculpted. I just want a little relaxed wave, is that so hard? The point is that I have greatest success with a flat iron. It is pretty simple once you get the hang of it. This tutorial is one of the best out there. I have also brought my flat iron in to the salon and had my hairdresser show me how it is done.